If you’re reading this article because you seriously want your ex boyfriend back, it will help you a lot if you ask yourself why do you want him back in the first place. Is it because you sincerely miss him or is it because you’re just jealous after seeing that your ex has easily moved on and started a new relationship? Do you want your ex back to prove to yourself that you are better than your ex’s new love? Or is it because you suddenly realized that what you had with your ex was something extraordinary and you want to experience the whole thing all over again? Whatever your motivation is to get your ex back, you may be clueless as to how to even start this process and do it in a way that you won’t seem too desperate.
The first step you want to take if you want to get your ex back is to give him a little breathing room to make a decision. If you try to force him to decide too fast you might get a yes answer only out of sympathy. He may later on turn around and dump you all over again.
Be patient; let him decide if he is willing to give it another go. If he decides to give it a second chance then you’ll know that it is his decision and not a choice you forced on him. This will give your relationship a good chance of working out the second time around, if both of you willingly welcome the idea of getting back together.
Second, try to nurture the friendship first and then just go with the flow. If the desire to get back together is mutual, you’ll find that you won’t be exerting too much effort on your part, as you’ll see him finding ways to make the relationship work as well.
Sometimes being just friends for a little while is a great way to appreciate each other without there being any high expectations placed on each other. You’ll be able to have fun in a way where the little stuff that might’ve come between you two, when you were officially together, won’t matter. Go out to a movie together and just hang out. Share a dinner where you’re both able to catch up on what’s going on in each other’s life. You’ll see that simple acts of friendship will bring you closer together in a way where neither one of your feelings are on the line.
Relationships breakup usually because one of the partners does not show the other person the appreciation he or she deserves. When you are just going out as friends, it’s easier to see what your partner is really worth and vice versa, as there’s not a lot of expectations on the relationship. Since the expectations are low, whatever you or your partner decides to do for the other, comes out as something special. Make sure you put extra effort to show your ex the appreciation he deserves and apologize for those times that you missed seeing his worth. Doing so may lead your ex boyfriend to think of the times he wasn’t appreciative of your efforts in the past as well.
Getting your ex back is not rocket science, but no matter what you do, you cannot make someone feel a certain way about you, if they don’t already. If the love has died between you and your boyfriend, then its best you move on to someone who probably has more to offer you in terms of love, respect and appreciation.
There will always be lingering feelings after a breakup, especially if the relationship lasted for a long time. When it’s all said and done it will have to be a mutual decision whether or not the relationship is given a second chance at life.